How You Should Be Dealing With A Breakup Positively

By Jose Stone


Being in a relationship that is romantic with someone is an unexplainable feeling because there would be a mixture of emotions. You will not think only about yourself anymore but about them also when important decisions are made. Because doing so does not just affect you but them also, either indirectly or directly.

But these relationships sometimes end due to various reasons no matter how good or bad the experience was. This is why several people need help for dealing with a breakup due to all their negative thoughts and feelings. The length of their togetherness is not relevant to how greatly affected a person could be with it.

First thing you should do is to express what you feel either through talking to a friend you trust or in writing them out. Suppressing the emotions of loneliness, sadness, anger, rejection is the natural impulse of most people but doing so does not help you move on. Doing this will make you realize why it did not work and why being not with them is better.

Individuals who experienced this usually either go over eating to make food their coping mechanism or over controlling in what they eat. Doing this is not healthy specially when you have no idea on how to do it properly. Be sure the food you are eating is nutritious and not those that are considered junk.

Start exercising if you did not previously exercise already before your breakup because your stress levels can be lowered by being active. This improves also the cognitive functions and mood plus it provides a good distraction away from unpleasant things. Be careful though in overdoing it as it might become a punishment or compulsive behavior instead.

Remind yourself of all the good things you have experienced in life because they might get overwhelmed by the negative experiences like this one. Your judgment may be clouded by this painful breakup and you could be focusing only on negative ones. List the things instead which made you grateful to shift your focus with positive events.

Do the things which you love to even before the painful event happened even when getting excited for these is harder. Force yourself with those activities that can make you have a good feeling such as coffee with friends or massage. Watching comedy movies and shows helps also because laughter can boost your mood.

Try to perform an obsession diet which you can write, obsess or indulge in self pity all you want but within a limited time only. Start with five minutes an hour and stop immediately after the time runs out and start again after an hour while reducing the time limit every day. You will then realize that your thoughts could be controlled with this exercise.

Your well being might be improved by performing towards others any acts of kindness and this helps in relieving depression. Giving back is a powerful way or rechanneling your love. Helping others empowers you and opens your heart as well.




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